Keep An Open Mind
What have you been hoping for that hasn’t turned out as planned? Is it a goal, a dream, being in a committed relationship, or something similar? Why haven’t your plans materialised yet? It’s important we consider all possibilities because there could be other reasons things haven’t manifested the way we like. Sometimes the universe has a greater plan for us, which I equate to the game of chess. The moves must be calculated in the same way a Grandmaster considers all possibilities from the one chess move.
So, just because something hasn’t happened for you, it doesn’t mean it won’t happen in the future. In fact, it may happen better than you expect. You’ve got to be convinced of it and hold the belief things will get better. For example, you can’t be sitting around waiting for a relationship to materialise out of thin air. You’ve got to be working on yourself, so when a suitable person comes along, you are ready for it. Similarly, it might require more self-enquiry, such as healing wounds from the past or getting clear on why you want to be in a relationship.
After years of writing, speaking and coaching on personal growth, I strongly believe we live in a supporting universe. As long as we are aligned with our greatest self and connect with love, peace and harmony, everything we desire will come to us at the right time. What are your thoughts about this? You might disagree because experience has shown you otherwise, and that’s okay. It’s normal you feel this way now, and I’m not trying to convince you of something that isn’t true for you. But I ask you: are you willing to change your beliefs or entertain the possibility that what I’m saying could be true?
I’ve seen it in my own life and the hundreds of people I’ve coached over the years. I have no desire to make this stuff up, to get likes and shares. If these words don’t resonate with you, it doesn’t matter how often it gets shared around, it will be discarded. The proof lies in putting it to the test, to see if it works for you. It may work for some people and prove wrong for others. It’s a matter of testing new ideas and keeping an open mind. I don’t claim to be an expert on how the universe works. My research and study on the topic show the universe works in mysterious ways, and unbeknown to what we understand.
I’ve seen this in my own life where unexpected events took place. Some were blessings, and others were unpleasant surprises that challenged me to grow. But I’ve learned not to focus on the chaos, but to go through the storm and wait for the growth to show up. In fact, when I experience challenges, I welcome them because I know something wonderful is happening behind the scenes. I know that if the universe is pushing me to expand through pain and discomfort, there are wonderful lessons in store for me.
Maintain A High Bandwidth Of Positive Emotions
Therefore, just because that wonderful relationship hasn’t happened, it doesn’t mean it won’t happen in the future. You’ve got to assign a deep belief that life can change unexpectedly. It happens every day; some people lose their job in a day. Others get married in a day. Fortunes are lost and gained in a day. The universe is mysterious and we ought to embrace it, not fear it. The same entity that brings us challenges also offers us wonderful surprises and blessings. It’s a matter of perception and how we look at our experiences. Are you comfortable with these ideas so far? Are you beginning to see that just because your circumstances are the same, it doesn’t mean it will follow the same trajectory forever?
So how can you use this knowledge in the future? How can you get through those times when nothing seems to be going right? It lies in your faith and patience. You’ve got to trust in a benevolent universe to bring you what you need because your desires are not separate from life. The fact you have a desire is born out of the same intelligence that gave you life. I’m assuming your desire is not to hurt others or contravene natural laws. If so, our desires will manifest once we are in alignment with the greater plan for our life. We don’t know what the plan is, but an indicator we are on the right path is by how we feel. Our emotions are our barometer, whether our desires are in alignment with universal laws or going against the tide.
Therefore, if you feel guilt, anger, disappointment, anxiety or sadness, there’s a good chance your desire is out of alignment with what is right for you. However, if you feel joy, happiness, excitement, enthusiasm and passion, there’s a good chance your desire is in alignment with what is right for you. It’s a matter of nurturing those emotions consistently. Having wants and needs isn’t selfish, but it’s important we feel good about them. So, if the idea of being in a loving and committed relationship makes you feel joy, love and peace, you are on the right track. It is a matter of staying in alignment with those emotions consistently.
That is all you need to do. The key is to get out of your head and into your heart and maintain a high bandwidth of positive emotions, without sabotaging it with negative thoughts. But being the meaning-making machines we are, we can’t help over-analysing when things don’t work out. Suddenly, we go from feeling good to negativity and wonder why our desires haven’t manifested. Knowing this, I invite you to write in your journal five things you want to manifest. In a column next to your desires, write what emotions come up when you contemplate achieving them? Is it love, peace, joy, happiness, etc? Focus on these emotions when you think of your desires. If you start to think of the reasons it hasn’t happened yet, thank your thoughts and shift your attention back to your positive emotions. Remember, the key is to quiet your mind and let your emotions guide you. Because our past needn’t dictate our future but can be a wonderful springboard to a life beyond our wildest dreams.